Specific Techniques for MEETING and APPROACHING WOMEN

One of the approaches that Lance Mason of PickUp 101 teaches his students in his dating class is the Group Approach. Lance Mason is an expert PickUp Artist (PUA) and shares his expertise with students in actual live, spontaneous dating coach sessions to teach them the dating skills they need to meet women.

Approaching a group of women is different than approaching a single woman in many ways. The firs thing that Lance teaches the guys is to walk up really slowly - directly TO the group, but as you do it, kind of just look around the room in a calm and cool manner. The idea is that you are really confident in your approach, and you’re definitely going to talk to those women, but you’re

also not shy, needy or desperate. You also kind of look around for other people you may talk to, it doesn’t look like you’re really focused on those girls, it just kind of looks like they are the next people that you’re going to talk to.

And what you do next is just kind of recognize that these people are having a conversation and kind of imagine like there is a psychological bubble around them, because if you walk on the outside of a group, and you have your opening line, lets say your opening line is, “Hey guys, you ever been to a party in Santa Cruz?” Lance has seen a guy walk up, and he’ll kind of stand on the outside of a group, and he’ll kind of yell the line, and it’s like the women don’t even hear him, and the people that hear him wonder, “Is he talking to ME?” And the women in the group that know he’s talking to them think, “Ya, well, he’s talking to me, but I think if I ignore him he’ll go away, because he didn’t really get our attention”.

So what a guy has to do is break this psychological bubble before anyone in that group can even hear anything you have to say at all. So, when you walk up, you want to make sure you really kind of get in their space. You have to kind of touch them gently, kind of move them to the side a little bit like a friend would, if he was going to talk to other friends. The idea is to get INTO their space, then, make sure you get eye contact from every member of the group before you say a thing. And that’s really important because if you go into a group and a couple people look at you and a couple people are kind of looking at each other like, “Who is this guy?” and you deliver your line without really getting everyone’s attention, you’re just showing from the start that you are someone who can be ignored, and that’s just the wrong first impression, and people pick up on that right away.

What begins to happen is that each of the women within the group assumes that you know the other people in the group, or at least ONE of the single girls there. There’s another important element here too, because you’re really getting into their space and it’s a little invasive so in order to counteract that intrusive feeling, shift your body 45 degrees away (like inserting yourself in sideways) then if you have to touch people to gently prod them to let you in, l do that. So the result is, your hand is right on the middle of the circle, your head’s kind of inside the circle, kind of looking at everyone, but your body’s facing away. So you’ve definitely stopped the conversation and commanded attention, but you’re not creeping anyone out by just facing someone directly and just being too close.

Then, - again be sure you have everyone’s attention. If there are 4 people looking at you and 2 people that aren’t, get their attention by saying something like “Hey ladies, check this out!” Once you have everyone’s attention, as soon as you get eye contact from everyone, immediately lean back and kind of step slightly out of the circle, then say whatever it is you have to say. Then you have to show everyone that even though you’re kind of leading the group now, you’re going to make sure that everyone’s comfortable. You’re not going to completely dominate it; you’re not going to be kind of too close.

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